For you, new and popular

An edit of newly added resources and those proving consistently popular among our partners' teams.
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Raul Aparici on mitigating impostor syndrome
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Kate and Catherine on pausing, for conversational space
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Kate and Catherine on intentional listening
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Kate and Catherine on questioning well
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Worksheet: Time Blocking
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Kate and Catherine on the coaching opportunity
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Matteo's coaching reflections
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Kas's reflections on listening and questioning well
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Time Blocking, and bringing some colour into your calendar
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Worksheet: Owning Feedback
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Making the case for situational flexibility as leaders
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eCourse: Difficult Conversations
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Mentors, Sponsors and Champions. With Abi Adamson
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Effective Allyship. With Abi Adamson
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What's your Privilege Pledge? With Abi Adamson
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Diversify your feed. With Abi Adamson
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Privilege reflections. With Abi Adamson
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Mindful toothbrushing. With Dr. Sam Akbar
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Anchor dropping. With Dr. Sam Akbar
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5,4,3,2,1 — a mindfulness technique. With Dr. Sam Akbar
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Urge surfing. With Dr. Sam Akbar
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Everyday mindfulness. With Dr. Sam Akbar
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Making room for emotions (and the weather). With Dr. Sam Akbar
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Letting go of emotions. With Dr. Sam Akbar
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How do you notice your thoughts? With Dr. Sam Akbar
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A coaching conversation around strengths
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eCourse: Confidence Mastery
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Daniel Goleman's Six Leadership Styles, explained by Louise Hedges
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eCourse: Mastering Delegation
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eCourse: Time Management and Prioritisation
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eCourse: Get SET with your Goals
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Perspectives on privilege, with Abi Adamson
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Neurodivergent Perspectives. Lexi Keegan in conversation with Dr. Anne Cockayne
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Neurodiversity know-how: The Spiky Profile explained
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Neurodiversity explained, with Dr. Anne Cockayne
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Neuroinclusion at work: Thinking about adjustments
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Neurodiversity know-how. Autism with Dr. Anne Cockayne
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Neurodiversity know-how. ADHD with Dr. Anne Cockayne
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Neurodiversity know-how. Dyslexia with Dr. Anne Cockayne
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Micro-learning: Setting Better Boundaries
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eCourse: Practicing a Coaching Approach
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Finding fortitude, and follow on experiments
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eCourse: Conscious Inclusion
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Seven things to avoid when writing at work
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Share genuinely useful feedback with the BID model
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Solve problems before they happen with pre-mortems
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Five tactics for influencing those more senior
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Five powerful questions for adding impact and insight to your next interview.
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Try out the CAR technique, and upgrade your understanding when interviewing someone.
Good Qs
Smart ways to frame questions in your next mentoring session
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Try the 5 Whys to invigorate your problem solving and add depth to your decisions.
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Course Pack: Effective Allyship, with Abi Adamson
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Course Pack: Voice Gym. Building your vocal confidence
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A three minute mindset exercise, to support a coaching approach
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Try this deep listening exercise for deeper connection and better conversations
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Experiment with the BRAIN model for confident decision making and problem solving
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Discover the impact a five minute favour can have on your relationships, and network building
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Homework for Life: A ten-second daily ritual for noticing, capturing and practicing stories
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Course Pack: Storytelling
Do Story
Practical storytelling principles from Bobette Buster's book — Do: Story
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Evolve your 'inner mentor' — a short reflective exercise to focus your development, and the ways you can better support others
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Experiment with a Springboard Story to communicate your change idea, and take people with you towards it.
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Course Pack: Natural Networking
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Tone Policing - What it is, why it's unhelpful and how to helpfully notice it.
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Find the Coaching in Criticism. Things to try when feedback doesn't quite land
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The 4Ds. A practical framework for acknowledging microaggressions
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Mindful breathing — the foundation of focus and flow
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Channel that fly on the wall. Try some purposeful self talk to mitigate moments of doubt
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Add some friction to your most common distractions
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Build belief by recognising small wins — Try a 'Done List'
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Make your next meeting a Silent Meeting
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Immediately build your confidence, with a 'Can-If' statement
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Don't forget to diarise thinking time — experiment with a 'To Think' list
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Smarten your approach to setbacks, by trying out a Setback Story
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Get clear on control with a Clarity Clap
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Everything I Know about Life I Learned from PowerPoint — What we learned and where it led...
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How to be a meaningful mentor, insights from a purposeful podcast
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Design (and share) your If > Then statements, for a purposefully prompt towards action
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Practice the principles of persuasion from 'Godfather of Influence,' Robert Cialdini.
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Six steps for finding focus and flow, with Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in mind
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Course Pack: Making Time
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Great questions to ask in coaching conversations, 1-1's and other curious contexts

Immediately build your confidence, with a 'Can-If' statement

‘Can-If’ statements, shared in the brilliant book You Coach You, are intentional gear-shifts away from fixed modes of thinking that allow us to see positives, and practical ways forward in all kinds of contexts. They're a timely tool for turning up our confidence, and really simple to get started with.
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Welcome in the oxygen of optimism

‘Can-If,’ statements shift you into a positive, progressive and purposeful mode of thinking whenever you’re faced with an obstacle or find yourself frozen in a fixed mindset that's denting your confidence. They echo the guidance of brain experts like Ian Robertson, Ethan Kross and Gabrielle Oettingen around 'implementation intentions'. And they’re easy to experiment with too.

A simple structure for intentional thinking

Whenever you’re assessing a problem or looking for solutions to a challenge, ditch...

• “I can’t do that because…”

and reframe your thinking by beginning...

• “I can do that if…"

Doing so will help you to purposefully pull to mind positive approaches to challenges, and reveal actionable ways forward.

Some examples to get you going

The three examples below are taken from Sarah Ellis's personal career challenge outlined in the book You Coach You, alongside a couple shared from within our own partners' teams by those who've found the tool helpful.

For Sarah's personal example, imagine your limiting belief is "I can't progress into a more senior role here because...", and see how a Can-If statement helped her reframe that, and what the unexpected benefits of that reframing were.

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I can progress here if...

... I design my own shadowing programme to learn from as many senior people inside and outside my business as possible (who might also become my sponsors.)

The unexpected benefit: by the time I'm promoted I'll have stronger relationships and a stronger support network in my new role.

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I can progress here if...

... I think of this time as an opportunity to practice my leadership skills while in a job I feel confident about.

The unexpected benefit: by the time I'm promoted I'll be more more confident and effective — and perhaps less stressed — in my new role.

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I can progress here if...

... I introduce the idea of 'stretch roles' which could include going to work for one of our customers or suppliers for a year.

The unexpected benefit: by the time I'm promoted I will have more authority and understanding in my new role.

Some more examples shared by people to have experimented with the tool...

Instead of 'I can't find time, because...."

I can find time if I take five minutes each morning and afternoon to do some mindful breathing to focus my attention and be more productive.

I can find time if I learn to say no to some of the tasks that come my way.

I can find time if I turn off phone notifications and get rid of all distractions.

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Instead of "I can't lead a team, because...

I can lead a team if If I find a mentor internally who's been on a similar path.

I can lead a team if I spend some time getting to know each member of the team personally and understand their preferred way of receiving feedback.

I can lead the team if I create a culture of constant learning and development to fall back on. Perhaps a team book group would be a good start?

Can-If statements are powerful creators of confidence, because they lead us towards an 'implementing' mindset over a 'deliberative' one. They positively prime us towards action.

Like all new tools, they take a bit of practice, but can be applied in any context you can imagine.

Where can you start with a Can-If statement today?

Hungry for more?

In this episode of his excellent Eat Sleep Work Repeat podcast, Bruce Daisley talks to Helen and Sarah, authors of You Coach You, about their motivation for writing the book and many of the ideas in it.

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